Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Butterfly Angel: A Tribute by Sherry Gail Heim

Today would have been my late grandson, Brennen Cole's fifth birthday. In honor of Brennen's short life, Sherry Gail Heim has graciously given me permission to print her poem today. May it bring much comfort to you who have also lost a grandchild as it did me.




Butterfly Angel


There was an enchanted butterfly
Who had only but one wing
She walked because she could not fly
And she taught herself to sing

She had the keen ability
Of making others smile
‘Twas her understanding of the heart
That made her life worthwhile

She sang her songs of happiness
And tales of love so true
She’d sing so loud as she would walk
None near her could feel blue

Her lovely voice would echo
Off the mountains, through the glen
And all the creatures in her path
Felt humbled by their friend

A frog came up and asked her
“How come you do not fly?”
She said “Dear frog, if I had wings,
I could not see you eye to eye.”

She was blessed without her wing, she said
And in being kept earthbound
She was able to enchant the lives
Of all the creatures on the ground


You see though soaring has its perks
On land she’d rather be
So she could use her pretty voice
To teach love and harmony

On a starry night while all alone
With no one else in sight
She returned to her true angel self
Then flew off into the night

But every morning at sunrise
If you listen you will hear
The butterfly angel’s pretty voice
Still spreading love and cheer

Sherry Heim
February 24, 2006


Printed by Permission: Copyright © Sherry Gail Heim 2006


Resource Box:
Sherry Gail Heim is a multi-talented writer who lives in the beautiful state called “The Land of Enchantment.” To learn more about Sherry visit her at Sherry Gail Heim

Author Connie Arnold Pays Tribute to Grieving Families With Poem

Blessings in Sorrow

May God’s blessings be upon you
in the sorrow that you face,
and a sense of peace and comfort
as He fills you with His grace.

May you feel God’s loving presence
by your side in all you do,
and loving arms supporting you
in the loss you’re going through.

May you always feel surrounded
with tender, loving care
and awareness that your burdens
God willingly will bear.

May God relieve your sorrow,
knowing He will give you rest
and assurance that your loved one
is with Him, forever blest.

Printed by permission of Connie Arnold, © February 2008



Resource Box: Connie Arnold lives in North Carolina with her husband. They share and enjoy two children and three grandchildren.
To learn more about Connie’s books and poems visit her at
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Monday, October 13, 2008


News from First Candle

First Candle is pleased to share with you an interesting new study on the use of fans in an infant’s room to help reduce the risk of SIDS.


Tummy sleeping and soft bedding in a baby’s sleep area can cause a buildup of carbon dioxide (exhaled air) around the baby’s face. Instead of breathing oxygen-rich fresh air, the baby may breathe the exhaled air which may increase the risk of SIDS. Many parents start getting nervous when their baby starts rolling over during sleep. A fan in the room can help disburse the exhaled air so the baby has more access to fresh air.


According to Dr. Fern Hauck, member of the American Academy of Pediatrics Task Force on SIDS and First Candle Medical and Scientific Advisory Council, more research is needed. “This is the first study that has looked at this issue,” Hauck said. “Because fan use is in line with theories, it may be worth considering.”


“While we can’t say conclusively that using a fan will reduce your baby’s risk of SIDS, First Candle has suggested the use of fans as a proactive step that parents and caregivers can take for several years,” said Laura Reno, Director of Public Affairs for First Candle. The best protection against SIDS is still to place your baby on his or her back in a safety approved crib on a firm mattress covered with only a sheet. There should be nothing else in the crib.” First Candle also reminds parents and caregivers babies who sleep in adult beds are at an increased risk for SIDS, suffocation and accidents during sleep. Placing your baby in a separate space along side your bed is safer.


If using a table or floor fan, use safety precautions to make sure the fan is not too close to the crib and that it can't tip over or onto the crib causing a finger hazard.

Use of a Fan During Sleep and the Risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome


Kimberly Coleman-Phox, MPH; Roxana Odouli, MSPH; De-Kun Li, MD, PhD Arch Pediatr Adolesc Med. 2008;162(10):963-968.


Objective: To examine the relation between room ventilationduring sleep and risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS).
Design: Population-based case-control study.
Setting: Eleven California counties.
Participants: Mothers of 185 infants with a confirmed SIDSdiagnosis and 312 randomly selected infants matched on countyof residence, maternal race/ethnicity, and age.
Intervention: Fan use and open window during sleep.
Main Outcome Measure: Risk of SIDS.


Results: Fan use during sleep was associated with a 72%reduction in SIDS risk (adjusted odds ratio [AOR], 0.28; 95%confidence interval [CI], 0.10-0.77). The reduction in SIDSrisk seemed more pronounced in adverse sleep environments. Forexample, fan use in warmer room temperatures was associatedwith a greater reduction in SIDS risk (AOR, 0.06; 95% CI, 0.01-0.52)compared with cooler room temperatures (0.77; 0.22-2.73). Similarly,the reduction associated with fan use was greater in infantsplaced in the prone or side sleep position (AOR, 0.14; 95% CI,0.03-0.55) vs supine (0.84; 0.21-3.39). Fan use was associatedwith a greater reduction in SIDS risk in infants who shareda bed with an individual other than their parents (AOR, 0.15;95% CI, 0.01-1.85) vs with a parent (0.40; 0.03-4.68). Finally,fan use was associated with reduced SIDS risk in infants notusing pacifiers (AOR, 0.22; 95% CI, 0.07-0.69) but not in pacifierusers (1.99; 0.16-24.4). Some differences in the effect of fanuse on SIDS risk did not reach statistical significance.


Conclusion: Fan use may be an effective intervention forfurther decreasing SIDS risk in infants in adverse sleep environments.


First Candle/SIDS Alliance is a national, nonprofit, health organization dedicated to promoting infant health and survival during the prenatal period through age two with programs of advocacy, education and research; while at the same time providing compassionate grief support to those experiencing an infant death. For more information on helping babies survive and thrive, to access local support services or to make a donation, please call 1.800.221.7437 or visit FIRST CANDLE.
This Newsflash was posted by Jewel Sample, award-winning author of Flying Hugs and Kisses. Helping SIDS families with the latest Sudden Infant Death Syndrome news.